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The Statewide Foster Parent Lending Library is now open for your viewing. We have over 1000 books cataloged and are still in the process of cataloging the videos, DVDs and other resource material. You are welcome to take a look and see what we have to offer. All books and resource material are sent out to our patrons in a canvas bag with pre-paid return postage. The patrons for this library are our foster, relative, adoptive parents. Further announcements and access instructions will be sent directly to them in the next couple of weeks. A tutorial has been created to help everyone get acquainted with the new library.
Anyone can see what the library contains, but ONLY our foster, relative, adoptive parents are able to actually reserve items for check-out.
Our patrons will be using their provider number as their User Name.
Feel free to check out the tutorial at http://oregondhs.booksys.net/opac/oregondhs/
The Librarian is Cynthia Gallegos. You can reach her at (503) 373-7838 or email at Cynthia.R.Gallegos@state.or.us.
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One of our members forward a flyer relating to classes offered for 12-14 year olds and 15-18 year olds at Rogue Federal Credit Union regarding learning to earn, saving, goal setting, budgeting, smart shopping, understanding credit, checking account basics, credit/credit reports, etc. If you have a child that would benefit from these classes, then here's your opportunity!
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The MDT Quarterly eNewsletter replaces the printed publication of the same name. Subscriptions are available for free upon request to: KellyWilliams803@comcast.net TheMDT Quarterly eNewsletter is intended for MDT members to maintain a current awareness of resources and information related to the field of child maltreatment, investigation, and response. Comments and contributions are welcome Write to the e-mail above.
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By Jacqui Goddard, the Correspondent. December 23rd, 2008 Edition.
As a child, Lula Mae Walker loved to dress up her dolls and dream about becoming a real mom some day. Now 73, she reflects on her decades of parenthood with a smile, proud of the children she and her husband brought into the world and the joy they have given her.
Her first-born, Charles, arrived in 1952, followed by sisters Florence and Denise, then a brother Dennis. After that came Katrina, Desiree, David, and Dwight. Rounding off the brood in 1968 was Twyla.
But while most people might have stopped at nine, Ms. Walker found room in her heart and her home for more, reaching out to needy youngsters on a scale few could even contemplate. Over the past 24 years, she has added to her family by adopting 11 more children and fostering at least 300 others. Then there are the grandchildren and great-grandchildren, 85 in all.
"There was never a dull moment, I'll tell you that", she admits, raising her eyes to the ceiling and chuckling fondly at the memories. "If I slowed down, I don't know what would happen to me. My life is about kids, my whole life."
Even more remarkable is that she has been a single mom since the late 1970s: Her husband died at 53. His passing was closely followed by other family adversity, including the deaths of two of her sisters. Her grief had the potential to overwhelm her, and the prospect of being alone once the last of their children grew up and left home was formidable.
"By that time I only had two kids left living with me. I had had so much tragedy and a good friend of mine said, 'Why don't you go into foster care? I think it will help you.' So I went to a meeting about it. I enjoyed it, tried all the classes, and signed up."
First to arrive were foster children Anton, 5, and Anice, 6. She felt immediately at ease with children at her feet again. "Then came a little girl from up North, a teenager who had had serious problems in her life. She was so sweet and such a special little girl. Then I got five more kids and so it went on," she recalls. "The foster people would say: 'Mrs. Walker, they have got to move on, don't fall in love with the kids.' But I fell in love with all of them."
Life at her modest one-story home in a black working-class neighborhood of Fort Lauderdale, Fla., has been a revolving door. Most foster children have arrived with emotional baggage - abandoned, neglected, or abused, such as two sisters who, aged just 12 and 13, each had babies, having been sexually abused by the same man. By day, Walker would show them how to care for their babies. By night, she tended to the infants to allow the girls some sleep. ?They were just babies themselves, she says.
Many children suffered from trust issues and behavioral difficulties.
But not once did she consider giving up on any of them. She lost her
own mother when she was 18, "so I have a sense of what it is to not
have a mom around", she says. "I can relate to them, sit down and talk
with them. Some kids give you problems, but we have got to reach out to
them when they are hurting and find out why they do what they do."
That lesson even applied the time two foster daughters stole Walker's new car, rounded up two of her other children, and sped off on a joyride. They were found by police after a two-hour hunt. "I just thank God they were safe. They apologized, but one of them had to go to the detention center for two weeks," she says. "The other one felt really bad, but she thought I wasn't going to let her come home. She said, 'No one would want me any more' I have had so many say that to me. I said, 'Oh no, I?m not going to kick you out. I love you.' "
Walker ended up adopting her.
To officials at ChildNet, the state-appointed child services agency for Broward County where Walker lives - and where 1,000 children are currently in foster care, 200 of them awaiting adoption - she is virtually a saint.
"She's able to relate to the children, make them feel valued, loved. They are able to trust her," says ChildNet adoption specialist Monica Haynes. "She loves to cook and that's one way she connects with them". She's always having a lot of family members in her home and people from her community, her neighborhood, her church. She's always been a giving person and her kids adore her. She's a rare jewel."
Over the years, the cost of caring for so many children has run into the hundreds of thousands of dollars. After Walker's husband died, her eldest son took over his plastering business, which helped to pay bills. The state assists by granting a monthly allowance - $297 per month per child to foster parents and between $400 and $500 per month for adopted children.
"When I had 15 kids all at the same time, I'd say I was spending about $1,000 a month" on groceries, she says. As her children grew up and found jobs, they have always pitched in where they could as well."
With so many to care for, there has been a never-ending list of household chores, mountains of laundry, and mass catering. Outings and vacations involved herding children on and off trains like a flock of sheep, and at birthdays, Thanksgivings, and Christmases, the compact six-bedroom house burst at the stucco seams.
"But I came from a family where the sky was the limit," says Walker, a sprightly, smartly attired woman who was one of 14 children herself. "My conscience told me that this is what my mom would have done. She loved her kids and there was nothing she wouldn't do for them. She told me, 'One day, you?ll know what it is to have kids.' I sure do."
As she sits in her lounge talking, grandson Tyler, 7, and granddaughter Deja, 10, watch TV in the back room. There is a wail, followed by the patter of footsteps as Tyler presents himself before us. "Deja won't let me watch television," he announces, adding: "And she hit the football on your china cabinet."
Deja is summoned, told politely but firmly that she is not to be a bully, and then dismissed, under strict instruction not to answer back. "Kids will be kids, but I think most of them have learned from me," says Walker.
Last month, 17 years after her first nine adoptions, she attended a ceremony making official her 10th and 11th, 16-year-old twins Rossana and Rossano. They first moved in with her two years ago as foster children after their mother died. Their father was never around, and they had been bounced around relatives? homes.
"They were having some behavior problems; they had been let down by their biological family members so, of course, they reacted to that in the only way they knew how, by taking a negative attitude," says Ms. Haynes of ChildNet. "But Mrs. Walker has done an excellent job of working with them and being a loving caregiver, someone they can trust and rely on. That?s really huge to these children. Now they are totally different people."
The girls - both of whom are in school, one with ambitions to be a lawyer and the other to be a mortician ? are now well mannered and engaging. "I had difficulty at first, because I just missed my family and stuff," says Rossana. "But she understands us like nobody else would."
Her sister nods. "She knows where we're coming from, she gets it. She told me every day: 'There's nothing you can hide from me, because I already know. I know what you're feeling.' She was there when we needed her and I'm going to be there for her in her time of need, too."
She adds: "I don't use the word 'luck', I use the word 'blessed'. There are kids out there who would love to be in the position we are now."
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Dear Foster Care Association Parents:
The Primetimers group (senior adults) at First Church of the Nazarene will be hosting a ?Parents Day Out? for the parents of our association from 11:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m. on Saturday, December 20th at the church (1974 E. McAndrews in Medford). Their purpose is to provide us with a safe and fun place to bring our foster children while we Christmas shop or run errands or just rest!
Although the church has an effective childrens? ministry, it will actually be the Seniors who will be in charge of this day under the leadership of their Senior Adult Pastor, Kevin Gowland. They truly hope this day is successful, because success will most certainly encourage them to do it again, and Pastor Kevin says they really want to! With that in mind, a few limitations have been put into place for this first event.
First, they will be hosting the first forty children who sign up (I?ll give you sign up instructions later in this e-mail). Second, they will host children ages 3-12 and potty training is not mandatory. Third, at this first event, they cannot accommodate children with medical or high behavior issues, and no sick children will be allowed the day of the event. Finally, the registration process below must be followed, and no drop-ins will be allowed!
Because the group will be limited, we encourage you to sign up your children as soon as possible. In any event, the registration deadline is December 10. The registration process is actually quite simple, and will work as follows:
To begin your registration, send me an e-mail with the name(s) and age(s) of your children that you would like to register for the event, and make sure that you include your name and address with the e-mail. I will take note of your registration and then forward it to the church.
At that time, the church will send you a registration form that includes a variety of information regarding the child and your contact information. This registration must be fully completed. Then you must bring it to the church on the day of the event, and it will serve as your child?s entrance to the event.
We must emphasize that no child will be admitted on the day without a fully completed registration form. And again, absolutely no drop-ins will be allowed because the number of children is limited to 40.
When the church sends you a registration form, they will send a letter with a few other simple details for the day that will make it easier for everyone. For instance, even though some snacks will be provided, they request that you feed your child before they come, and pack your child?s favorite snacks when you bring them.
Finally, please respond to this letter only by e-mail. I cannot answer phone calls regarding this event. If you have questions, please e-mail them to me and I will respond as quickly as I can. If I cannot answer your question, I will forward your e-mail to the church for their answer.
We hope this event will be a valuable day for you, and a fun day for your child! I?m looking forward to receiving an e-mail with your child?s information to begin the registration process! My Email is jophil22002@yahoo.com
Sincerely,
JoAnn Phillips, Vice President JCFPA
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This ruling was brought about by Legal Advocates for Permanent Parenting (LAPP) who enlisted a team of outstanding attorneys to work on the case. Regina Deihl, the Executive Director of LAPP expressed her gratitude to Morrison & Foerster and to the Children's Advocacy Institute for their legal work on the case.
It is expected that this ruling, since it was brought in a federal court, will have ramifications nationwide. We will keep you updated as the case is finally resolved and through our Public Policy Committee, how it might affect your state.
Below are editorials regarding the lawsuit:
San Jose Mercury News EditorialArticle Launched: 10/23/2008 08:00:00 PM PDT
It shouldn't take a court ruling for California to do the right thing by its 75,000 foster children and the saints who care for them. Shame on state leaders for forcing U.S. District Judge William Alsup on Wednesday to tell them what they should have known: The state's low payments to foster parents violate the federal Child Welfare Act.
Friday, October 24, 2008
Wednesday, October 22, 2008